There is no fear in love.
But perfect love drives out fear.
(1 John 4:18)
I am really learning what the context of this verse is saying in my own life.
I mentioned in my paper for school the two different kinds of love, as spoken in the Greek.
” Philio”- is a love that is based on feeling, and strong emotional ties.
This is the “common” love in the world, and a lot of the reason there is so much “lust” out there.
We don’t know “how” to love with a solid, foundational love. We only know “if it feels good” then we will love
someone, and when it “doesn’t feel like love” we have nothing left to keep the relationship going because that “feeling” is gone,
that “happy, rainbow” type love…now a bunch of clouds, sadness, and rain.”
Its the same when it comes to how we treat everyday people, if someone cuts us off on the road we are more opt to get ticked off, and say a bunch of name calling, rather than realize the “reason” it happened, like perhaps it was an accident, perhaps that person was going through something. If you think about it…
this type of love really is more “About us”, because its love lead by us. Selfish, Impatient, Unkind, Envious,and it keeps a record of everything someone does wrong to us..
Its a love that makes us concentrate on “what we can get” out of it, instead of what we can give…
The type of love that I really am working on to be instilled in my own life is, ” agape.”
It is a love that even when you don’t “feel” it, you “think” daily, how, and what ways you can love someone.
Its a love that comes with obedience to love.
Both of my parents were raised in knowing “love”, but unfortunately, not “agape.”
Interesting enough though, my father, though he didn’t know the right way to love someone,
he taught me how.
Yesterday, was my grandfather’s birthday. I told dad that we needed to call him. I knew it was hard for him, because he hadn’t spoken to him for a long time, but I made sure we called him. I was proud of him for just taking the phone. Even though his father is distant.
We then drove to see my grandmother in the nursing home. God pressed it on my heart for two days to go up and visit, and so we did. We brought her coffee and donuts, and I brought ” The Serenity Prayer” for her to hang in her room.
I saw how God saw her, I saw how much He loved her. I saw that just as God can love me, I could love her. Dad didn’t say much, but I showed her every picture on my cell phone. Dad didn’t want to stay very long, but I left when he wanted to, I knew it was hard; I just had to make sure He went, and that I did too.
“philio” love is the kind of love that when you throw a rock at a window, it will instantly break it, but “agape” is a love for people that no matter how hard you throw the rock, the glass stays in tack. It is strong, and deep.
“agape” is love that’s intentional, you love someone, because you make the choice daily that you will, it stays around regardless of the circumstances.
That is the love God taught me, through my dad.
My friend Cadywrote a beautiful post on forgiveness, and so inspired me to write this post actually.
a few of her post actually, have inspired me.
There was that Pastor who was going to burn the Quran. But the thing about it is, how could he be showing “love” of Jesus to the muslim world, when he was only filled with fear?
I am so proud of Cady for writing her post, because she is someone who lives in New York, and is making a point to tell the world that forgiveness is the key…not the “eye for an eye” business.
I will also mention that until you’ve experienced “agape” love, its going to be hard for you to realize what it is, until it is shown to you, so this the reason for the post. I want people to realize that real love for others is not based on feeling, with love deep thought comes into play, you think back to good times, you think back to memories…and you think back to what you know about God, and who He has been to the world.
You think back that He has sustained us from the beginning…and still is today.
True love is found in the arms of Jesus. We experience it with Him while the world forgets what “love” really is.
There is no fear in love, because love is something that wraps itself around you, its full of grace, and forgiveness…its everything 1 Corinthians 13 says it is…and more. Fear is something that keeps you at a distance, its shows disgrace,
and its everything that 1 Cor 13 is not, and less. Fear does nothing but keep you at a place for you to be stepped on daily.
Love is Jesus. Fear is the enemy.
Love knowing Jesus will help you do it. Love with intention. Love with showing grace. Love with an honest love, a truthful love, and a faithful love.
Jesus will drive out anything in us that keeps us from really showing the world, true “agape” love…
We just have to open our heart humbly and ask for His help.
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames,but have not love, I gain nothing.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails. (1 Corinthians 13:1-8)