LSOF: Social Networking Etiquette

Social Networking Etiquette

I’ve had my share of Facebook, Twitter, and Blogging…and I’ve met some seriously real, and down to earth people along the way, but I have also had my share of meeting people that were less than genuine.

I’ve seen people say online, “ This person unfollowed me on Twitter, or this person unfriended me on Facebook…

I’ve heard people say they have felt left out on Twitter, or that no one comments on their wall on Facebook…

I’ve read what people say about how afraid they are on letting themselves out into blogworld just sharing their heart…

I’ve been apart of all of those scenarios at least one time or another, and I thought it was time that someone would speak up and think of an etiquette when it comes to connecting with people through the online world.

When it comes to Facebook:

How many friends on your list do you actually know personally?
How important is it to you to have a certain number of people on your friend’s list?
Do you write statuses with something meaningful, or just ramble about your day?
Why do you want the people you have on your friend’s list?
Do you get upset when you are unfriended, or do you not even notice?

Facebook is a pretty unique way to communicate. It is a little more simple that Myspace,
and it appeals to pretty much everyone.
However, while it appeals to everyone, that should be a reason one might pay attention
to how they act and conduct themselves with every status, every person they friend,
and everytime they interact with anyone.

We may have 600 people on the friend’s list, but we have to remember that they have their own opinions, morals and values.  It is important to realize that what you might say on your status might offend someone else.

Not everyone knows you. Not everyone will be able to understand your status, or a comment you might leave them.

Be careful that you remember the person you are writing isn’t the only one seeing the comment you leave.

Remember if you have people from your job on your Facebook, they know you from how you conduct yourself at work. They don’t know you otherwise. Be careful what you share.

If someone unfriends you, take only 30 seconds at the very most to think of WHY, taking any longer will throw yourself into defeat.  Don’t take it personally, even if you think you did or said something wrong.

If you feel that is the case, go to the source! Most of the time if you are unfriended, it is because of the person is either trying to downsize their facebook to their close friends and family, or they have deactivated altogether.

The animal of Twitter is similar to Facebook in some context. It has the ability to allow you to follow of unfollow someone, it lets you interact with other people that you choose, and it let’s you share whatever you want to…(140 characters of course!)

The etiquette of Twitter is simple. Keep it simple.

We rarely know everyone on twitter. If you don’t know them personally, don’t share anything with them!
If you need more than 140 characters to say something to someone, then email them, or find a way to say it more succinctly.
It drives people crazy when they look on a Twitter feed and hear only about you for at least 8 tweets.
Twitter can be a way for networking with the big business.  People in position are always searching through tweets to get to know other people and see where their interests are.
I know a few people who have actually been published, and noticed on other avenues just because of an agent seeking out someone worthy of the job.
It’s good to interact with everyone, but again, keep it simple.

Celebrities are on Twitter, yes we know this, but remember they don’t know you.

Be respectful always to everyone’s time, don’t reply a thousand times to keep conversation going,
unless it is the way the other person interacts, but even then, take it to email or text, not everyone on Twitter needs to know do they?

Be careful on what you retweet. Make sure it is appropriate for all your followers.

Finally, the etiquette of blogworld:

I’ve been apart of blogworld for now almost 6 years. I’ve had my share of comments that I was so touched by, and I’ve had my share of those that I’ve deleted as soon as I could get to the computer.

The etiquette for blogging I’d say is to remember it is not what you say, but where your heart is in writing it.

People all over the world can click on what you write thanks to Google and other such search engines, it is important to realize that words have impact on others.
You may not receive one comment on your blog, but someone on the other side of the screen may have been crying their eyes out, because it touched them so deep.

You also have to be careful on what you write about:
I’ve run into a situation like that before; My words were not meant to hurt anyone, but because of this person’s loss, it hit too close for comfort for them.  I understand their intent, and knew they didn’t know me or my heart. However, I did take it down the post out of respect of their feelings.

So in that instance in writing blogs it is important to not be prideful about it, if you are contacted by someone who says what you write is wrong, and if it is something legitimate. Take it down. Be respectful.

Don’t use names of those who you should “generally” talk about to explain something.
I am one that has had to do this, because of who I’ve had in my life.  I keep it general, because I don’t only not want to hurt the other person, but because they have their own reputation, and it is not my business to shake it. 
We can all explain something in a way that doesn’t offend anyone, but we have to remember at the heart of it, it is a message we are sharing with the world.
What is it we are trying to say? What point are we trying to make?

Just like Facebook, and Twitter, the people in blogworld do not know you. They may have an idea of what your heart is after in your writing, but they don’t know you.

I’ve found that those I thought I was so close to, and knew them so well…I didn’t know at all.
Social networking can leave too much to assumption.

We have to pay attention to our words with others, we have to pay attention to our attitude and what we are trying to convey.
We have to realize that they know other people, and they may not be the only ones visiting our blogs.

The best part of blogging I love most is it is a place to be neutral.
Not everyone on your Twitter, or Facebook will read your blog. 
You have some room to be you.
To share your likes and dislikes, To share your thoughts, and to share your heart.

Next post I am going to share a little more of my experience with social networking, because its been a fun and yet difficult journey in knowing some people, but I wouldn’t change any of those moments for the world.

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